How do I get my relationship with my best friend back to normal? – Family & PeopleReport
I recently told a secret of my best friend that caused problems in her marriage. I did it for the sake of her wonderful husband that didn’t deserve to get treated like this. I was angry and wanted this to stop. Well my best friend didn’t stop the cheating and now is currently filing for divorce from her husband. She is acting weird lately and is hanging out with a few different people I have never met. It is the people that she met this boyfriend guy of hers. She is just not acting like the girl I have known really well for the last past several years. She was a bad girl in high school but when she met her husband she turned around and became a family type of woman. She met him when she was 6 months pregnant and recently was dumped. Her boyfriend at the time cheated on her. She met this wonderful guy who wanted to give her a fairy tale kind of romance. He did until she lost tons of weight and loved to be flirted with and met someone else. This was after a 3 year marriage and have been together for 5 years all together. My question is how do I get my relationship with my best friend back to normal? Is this something I am just going to have to deal with and just pull my big girl panties up and get over? I know I made her extremely upset for letting the cat out of the bag. She said she is over that and it needed to happen, basically. Well I miss her and have cried several times over this. She doesn’t really call me anymore and doesn’t act herself. She is going through a lot and cries a lot too. I was at one time very emotionally involved. I don’t want to cry anymore. This is what she wants, so why is she acting this way to me. Am I shelfish? I just feel like I am trying to hard be in her life and feel some what stupid by trying. I am not sure what to do. I really don’t want to give up. I am confused. I love that girl to no end, but I am done feeling like a idiot all the time. What should I do?
Your relationship will never go back to what it was. Every challenge or setback or major event shapes us into who we are becoming. I don’t know if I’d want to be friends with a woman that did a good man that way.
Some relationships disinegrate when they are supposed to; you can’t carry all the responsibility. Good luck!