How do I handle this situation? – Family & PeopleReport
My friends have been lately hanging out together more. I have to study sometimes and when I do I tell them I can’t. But they began to include me in less and less stuff. Also, I was being scolded at more and being told I wasn’t aggressive enough for certain things, which is true, but I’m learning how not to be and I’m still upset about it when someone says that.
The number one thing that aggravates me is being treated like a child, and so that’s how I’ve been feeling. When I told them they told me I wasn’t aggressive enough to tell them.
A few days ago we went to the store. I needed my meds, groceries, and bike stuff. We were there for almost an hour and my friend told me she had class at 6. It was 5:30 and I forgot my meds. So, I went to get them. I told her 5 min and it took 6-7 min. I rushed out to get to the car. I was yelled at for it and she said that I didn’t care about her time. I’m still upset about it and I haven’t talked to her since that day. My boyfriend says I’m acting childish,my friend says to hang out with different people for a while. I just don’t know what to do.
It may be that you and some of your friends are moving in different directions. It happens in friendships. Consider that you are likely not still friends with some of the people you knew just several years ago.
You are who you are. If you feel that you want to be more assertive in how you deal with some situations, than that is something you work on for yourself, not because others think you need to perhaps be more like them. Think assertive, not aggressive.
I can understand your friend’s concern about her class, but she also needs to understand your need to pick up your medication. The fact that it took a bit longer than you expected was likely not something you had control over. Yelling at you was not necessary and I don’t blame you for not wanting to speak to her for awhile, but it was likely out of her worrying about being late that she snapped at you.
If you find that you don’t like how you have been treated lately, you could either speak to them about it, or just slowly let things progress to where you are spending less time with them and more with other friends.