I'm looking for the source and wording of a quotation I heard long ago
about etiquette. It is something like etiquette (or manners or
politeness) is human affection gone rotten, i.e., laws of politeness
are a poor substitute for fellow-feeling. I'm looking for the name of
the (slightly?) famous person who said this, and the phraseology,
rather than someone to invent a new aphorism.
Request for Question Clarification bypinkfreud-ga
How about this quote, from the letters of Thomas Jefferson?
"In truth, politeness is artificial good humor, it covers the natural
want of it, and ends by rendering habitual a substitute nearly
equivalent to the real virtue."
Request for Question Clarification bypafalafa-ga
Or, it could be Ambrose Bierce's entry from The Devil's Dictionary,
which defines politeness as "The most acceptable hypocrisy".
Clarification of Question bypc251-ga
Pinkfreud-ga has found what I was thinking of. Thank you.