Quotation Hostile to Etiquette/manners

I'm looking for the source and wording of a quotation I heard long ago

about etiquette. It is something like etiquette (or manners or

politeness) is human affection gone rotten, i.e., laws of politeness

are a poor substitute for fellow-feeling. I'm looking for the name of

the (slightly?) famous person who said this, and the phraseology,

rather than someone to invent a new aphorism.

Request for Question Clarification bypinkfreud-ga

How about this quote, from the letters of Thomas Jefferson?

"In truth, politeness is artificial good humor, it covers the natural

want of it, and ends by rendering habitual a substitute nearly

equivalent to the real virtue."

http://www.4literature.net/Thomas_Jefferson/Selections_from_Jefferson_s_Correspond/3.html

Request for Question Clarification bypafalafa-ga

Or, it could be Ambrose Bierce's entry from The Devil's Dictionary,

which defines politeness as "The most acceptable hypocrisy".

Clarification of Question bypc251-ga

Pinkfreud-ga has found what I was thinking of. Thank you.



One thought on “Quotation Hostile to Etiquette/manners

  1. I am delighted to learn that the Thomas Jefferson quote I suggested

    was the correct one. I've reposted it below.

    "In truth, politeness is artificial good humor, it covers the natural

    want of it, and ends by rendering habitual a substitute nearly

    equivalent to the real virtue."

    4literature: Works by Thomas Jefferson

    http://www.4literature.net/Thomas_Jefferson/Selections_from_Jefferson_s_Correspond/3.html

    I became aware of the quote when I was in college. A friend of mine

    had "Politeness Is Artificial Good Humor… Thomas Jefferson" printed

    on a sweatshirt. Really good quotes stand the test of time!

    Best regards,

    pinkfreud

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